"hate men"
"They are so treacherous, unfaithful by nature, you dupe and then let you roll the first opportunity. " How many times have we heard this, women resent a bad experience sentimental or simply prejudiced against the opposite sex. We tend to generalize occasionally, but the truth as such, when it comes to human beings do not exist.
why a woman might say she hates men?; Can be so negative a broken heart to put an end to any chance of falling in love?; Are all men equal? , why put the hopes of happiness in them?, "perhaps are we have to provide everything?, what if a relationship goes wrong, they must all go wrong?
When it comes to love between men and women there are many preconceived ideas, each has different expectations do not always agree with reality. Men and women do not have the same needs, nor how to meet it. What could be complementary, we often want to be identical, which is impossible. Most misunderstandings arise because we do not accept the reality of love relationships do not differ much from other human relationships. Must prevail respect, education, the right to privacy, their own tastes. Honestly, we can all recognize that couples most of these things is not respected. There is a tendency to think that intimacy is deceiving the other, that if these individual projects will undermine the relationship, trust is shown to the other such that one is, that is, with all faults. It is the beginning of the end.
As we discuss theoretically a certain contempt for the feminine in men, either through ignorance of our own nature or because they often only have been the subject and not subject of desire in many women also nests hostility toward men we see in many feminist attitudes. Many women attributed to male life easier and more affordable, as if to them the bread and the recognition they fall from the sky without any previous work. We must recognize that if the man has achieved some social standing has had to spend hours of work, money and sacrifice many loving moments and entertainment. However, if we reach a position equivalent to that of many men we must take a path equivalent, not equal, because it repeats what ever made it out.
They have to leave the house mother to win a new and unknown world, also love and prefer to stay in the arms of his lover, they also leave the children with pain to go to work. His world will have to do with their own hands and, often, built in the world of women with whom they share life. Do we recognize the generosity of women that many men have had with us? We talked about the domestic work of the hard work of parenting, but worth is to recognize that they also do something for family. Maybe some other things we have to learn the world of women and men's world, perhaps no better half, but half-lives and what we should hope for is to be two oranges, have full lives.
When we make love the center of all things, we ignore that, as Freud said in his text "Civilization and Its Discontents": so we are never at the mercy of suffering as when we love, we are never so helplessly unhappy as when we lost the beloved object of his love. I would say that is the basis of the resentment of many people when, after a breakup, say not ever again want to try this medicine. If you wait for the love we generate the happiness that we have to get the job, social relations, social projects, not only do we lose love, but, we are deeply disappointed. S i do not project our future, we can not be happy. Happiness is the realization of a work together between two or more people. And if there is no happiness. The resentment and hatred can not be good companions in life, we must recognize his own mistakes committed in the relationship, we have some responsibility in this failure and be open to new people, not because it is necessary to have a partner for life, but if necessary love others to live. Living together is not advice, it is the only way to live .
Helena Trujillo
Zero Group Psychoanalyst
0 comments:
Post a Comment