PSYCHOANALYSIS AND DAILY LIFE:
CHRISTMAS
At Christmas, almost all try to get a bit closer to the family, especially to those relatives or those who just see more problems arise when we interact. Are some dates that each year it seems we have an obligation to be happy and get along with everyone or at least appear so. It seems that at Christmas we should all be better than we are and live better than we usually live.
With the advent of the new year there are many people who take the opportunity to set new goals. Some raised their proposals, but as if that was sufficient for the fulfillment of something, forget to few days and never do anything else. Others are working throughout the year for those goals. Then we can differentiate those who remain in the proposal and those who establish a work plan.
Those who stay in the words or thoughts will not get anything new, still looking like themselves.
Those who believe that happiness lies in the path of work, working towards a better life and this is not necessary to wait until year's end.
When you do not get what he says he wants, feelings such as guilt, helplessness, worthlessness, anxiety. Instead of complaining about what happened, it would be best to learn something.
In Psychoanalysis say that when someone does not want to get what it says is that he did not want . not get what you want is sometimes the sign that still do not want it enough, but we must not cease in the attempt. Every effort has its reward. The only way is to transform reality through action.
We are, however, accustomed to expect immediate responses to our actions. It is very important that we learn to tolerate uncertainty and does not falter. It should be that the results are not what you fantasize, but others may even be better. Reality is always better than fantasy. From what is left is the neurotic fantasy, what it lacks is the ability to work.
According to psychoanalysis, the triumph and the failure to carry the same psychological costs but obviously, we know that the consequences are very different.
With these arguments it is clear that we ran out of excuses. Responsa stabilizers of life that we all in our power to change it. Why wait a year again, when today we take a small step we go for a better life. Why wait for Christmas when I can pay attention today to other people.
The cultural background of Christmas is full of good intentions, the interest would convert into shares during the year. Giving love, giving, sharing, being with loved ones, celebrate.
Perhaps abandoning the ideals cost us, costs us the things we value and want a perfection that will never occur. We live and die unhappy.
disease of this century is that we do not tolerate others. We encourage individualism, loneliness. But when we feel alone the world falls down, it seems that there is no future. We eat with our tears, instead of being more attentive to others. Instead of valuing differences, the matches and mismatches. Everything we use to separate. It is clear that we may not get very far.
There are three objects that produce desires, interest and attraction. The look, speech and listening. Looking generates desire, speak well, but what really catches the desire of another person is to listen. Nobody to listen to anyone not interested in others, but ourselves. Often the act of listening to a person allows to establish a current affective. A good tip for the year and especially at Christmas is this: listen to others, stopped for a moment your thoughts, worries, selfishness and hear what shows you that other person. In this way, I'm sure you will discover many things. Listen to others gives meaning to the way they interact and allows us to relate well with him.
Ceder part of our selfishness will make us feel better, facilitate and promote our relations and give us a social pleasure with long-term.
In the words of poet and psychoanalyst Michael Oscar Menassa, our wealth is the richness of our social relationships.
not forget that everything is easier when you smile, but the smile is not natural in humans, is also a work smile.
Helena Trujillo Luque
Psychoanalyst
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